THERAPY FOR OPEN RELATIONSHIPS

Therapy for couples thinking about opening their relationship, couples who already have, and couples where one partner wants it and the other doesn’t. I’m a licensed clinical social worker and an AASECT-certified sex and couples therapist, and I work online across New York, New Jersey, New Hampshire, and Florida.

I don’t think monogamy is the healthy default, and I don’t think openness is the enlightened one. Either can be a way of growing up together or a way of avoiding each other. What I look at is whether your agreement is something you both actually chose, and whether you can each tolerate the feelings it brings up. That capacity, more than the rules, is what makes any structure work.

What I work with: deciding whether to open, negotiating agreements you can both live with, jealousy and insecurity, a partner who fell for someone else, rules that keep getting broken, closing a relationship again, and the particular ways gay and queer couples tend to navigate openness.

I hold an MSW from Yeshiva University, an MA in Trauma and Crisis Studies from Tel Aviv University, and certification in sex therapy through AASECT and the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. I live in Brooklyn with my husband and our dog, Bernie.