Gay Couples Therapist in New Jersey
Jon Prezant, LCSW, MA, CST — AASECT-Certified Sex and Couples Therapist
Couples therapy that takes the sex as seriously as the conflict. I’m a licensed clinical social worker, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, and a gay man who’s married. I work online with gay and queer couples across New Jersey on desire, open and monogamous agreements, and repair after broken trust.
Most gay couples I meet have had the experience of educating a therapist – explaining what an open relationship is and that it isn’t a symptom, watching someone get visibly careful or visibly enthusiastic, and realizing they’ve become an unusual case rather than a couple with a problem. You can skip that here.
What I treat: low or mismatched desire, sex that stopped, erectile difficulties and performance anxiety, the specific pressure gay men carry about bodies and stamina, sexual shame carried in from family or religion, non-monogamy agreements that need renegotiating, and the drift into being affectionate roommates. Licensed in New Jersey (#44SC06579900).
I received my MSW from Yeshiva University, MA in Trauma and Crisis Studies from Tel Aviv University, sex therapy certification through AASECT and the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. I live in Brooklyn with my husband and our dog, Bernie, and produce music when I’m not in session.
What Gay Couples Bring In
Changing Agreements
The arrangement made sense in your thirties. One of you outgrew it and hasn't said so, or you're fighting over a rule nobody actually agreed to. Renegotiating is the work, not a failure.
Sex That Isn't Working
Erections, pain, loss of interest, performance anxiety, PrEP-era anxiety. Routinely treated as a medical problem or not treated at all. It's neither, and it's my core clinical work.
Wanting Different Amounts
One wants more sex, one wants less, and it's quietly become a referendum on whether you're still what you were. In gay couples this gets misread as an open-relationship problem when it usually isn't.
Moving Out Of The City
Montclair, Maplewood, South Orange - and suddenly you're thinking about hand-holding in a way you hadn't in a decade. Plus whose parents get told what, still, at forty-five.
Your Questions, Answered.
Everything you need to know about starting gay couples therapy in New Jersey.
How Couples Therapy Works
Does online couples therapy actually work?
Yes. It also means that if you live in a New Jersey town where the affirming therapist is the only therapist, you aren’t choosing between competence and privacy. And if one of you commutes into the city, neither of you has to leave a desk.
How long does it take?
Most couples work weekly for four to eight months. I’m not interested in keeping you in therapy forever.
Do you take insurance?
No – $250 per session, out-of-network, with a monthly superbill. Insurers generally only cover couples work if one partner carries a psychiatric diagnosis and the sessions are billed as his treatment. You can review how to collect reimbursement here.
Is This For Us?
We're non-monogamous. Is that a problem?
No, and I won’t treat it as one. I also won’t treat it as automatically healthy. It’s a set of agreements that either work or need renegotiating, and that’s what we’ll work on.
Do you work with queer Jewish couples?
Yes, and it’s a specialty. Much of my practice is with gay and queer Jews who’ve lost friends, community, and mentors to anti-Jewish hate, including from inside queer spaces. I’m an Israeli-American gay Jew and you won’t have to make a case for it here.
What if our main issue is sexual?
Then you don’t need two therapists. I’m AASECT-certified and treat the sexual relationship alongside the relational one, so you aren’t sent elsewhere for half your relationship.
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Jon Prezant, LCSW, MA
Gay Couples Therapist in NJ
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