Couples Therapy in NYC

Couples therapy that takes the sex as seriously as the conflict. I’m a licensed clinical social worker and an AASECT-certified sex therapist based in New York City. I work with couples on desire that faded, the fight that keeps repeating, agreements about monogamy and openness, and repair after broken trust – online in New York, New Jersey, New Hampshire, and Florida.

Most couples therapy treats sex as a symptom that will clear up once the communication improves. It usually doesn’t. Sex has its own logic – arousal, shame, mismatched scripts, bodies that change over twenty years – and it needs its own attention alongside the relational work. I do both in the same room, so you aren’t sent somewhere else for half of your relationship.

What I treat: low or mismatched desire, sex that has stopped altogether, erectile difficulties and performance anxiety, pain with sex, difficulty reaching orgasm, sexual shame carried in from family or religion, broken agreements and infidelity, negotiating monogamy or openness, and the slow erosion of intimacy that happens over the course of a long relationship. My approach is direct and evidence-based – emotionally focused therapy to get at the attachment patterns driving your conflicts, psychodynamic work to surface what’s underneath, and sex therapy techniques grounded in decades of clinical research.

I hold an MSW from Yeshiva University, an MA in Trauma and Crisis Studies from Tel Aviv University, and certification in sex therapy through AASECT and the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. I live in Brooklyn with my husband and our dog, Bernie.